I was sitting in bumper to bumper the other day when I felt the urgency sink in...then I paused and thought, why is this traffic here? Road work? A detour? It was an accident. This really made me pause - we are often in such a rush and in our urgency to get to the next thing we can become so irritated when we are forced to slow down. Guess what - it doesn't serve us to always go so fast.
I thought of all the times I felt frustrated I had to wait a little longer in a waiting room, or sat in the traffic, or just felt inconvenienced by something. I recognized how so often the people on the couch across from me were part of what caused the slow down - the accident, the diagnosis, the loss, the child having a meltdown. And while I've also been these people - many of us have - we still sometimes neglect to slow down and pause to recognize our gratitude for our inconvenience when we aren't the one in the room or the car.
When you're rushing through life these days and are forced to a halt, consider if maybe the universe is giving you a chance to witness the reality that you aren't living and how lucky you are to not be that person right now. You never know what someone is carrying, what the therapist or doctor held space for before you walk in, or what that cop giving you a ticket for helped clean up just hours before. Perspective matters, and so does kindness.
So the next time you're held up, your coffee isn't exactly how you want it, or you are running late, consider that maybe you're right on time or in a lucky position to have that be your greatest challenge of the day.
Let this be a Wednesday reminder to slow down, be gentle with yourself and others, and recognize how grateful we can be when we consider how our inconvenience might be a mirror for our privilege.
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